Milo Week 9: Judge Yourself First

If you’re a human, which I assume you are (Hopefully. However, if you are some futuristic hyperintelligent dolphin that’s reading this, that’s super cool too.), other humans are going to judge you. That’s because humans (and possibly hyper-intelligent dolphins) have survived and evolved by using judgment about what’s safe and unsafe, good and bad, healthy and unhealthy. Judging is normal; it's a natural human instinct. All your life, people will judge how you spend your time, what you wear, what car you drive, what school you go to, how much money you have, and more. Constantly judged by the rest of the world can feel overwhelming and suffocating. But the fact that others judge you isn’t a problem. What you’re making it mean is the real problem. Caring about what others think is useful and helpful in moderation, helping you feel compassion for others. Still, as most of us experience in excess, it can be detrimental to mental health and self-talk. If you choose to make other people’s opinions relevant, you risk basing your feelings about yourself on what they think of you instead of deciding what you think of yourself. Other opinions will differ, but your own is the only one that counts. Some people will think joining four sports teams is distracting from work and what you should focus on in high school, while others might say it’s a true commitment. Some people will think joining the school musical and putting your all into it is “cringe,” but others would think it’s awesome for putting yourself out there. None of that determines what’s right for you. You get to decide what you think about yourself and your decisions. There will always be people who approve of you and some that don’t. What’s important is that you approve of yourself. Other people’s opinions are about them, not you. Decide for yourself what you want to believe. What you decide about yourself matters much more than anyone else can say. So let others put you down, let others hate, and let other people judge everything about you. None of it matters. You are the only one who can decide what you think about yourself. 

In the comments below, talk about what you’re committed to, no matter what other people think.


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